Weddings

Wedding Information

We are very pleased that you are thinking of getting married at St Mary’s. It is a beautiful church and a popular location for weddings, so we have plenty of experience! We aim to make your wedding a truly happy and memorable occasion.

You are probably not sure of how to proceed in terms of booking a date and considering all the options you have in preparing for this very special occasion.

Use the links to help you to make your initial booking as well as planning for the big day.

If you want any more information, you can find it on the Church of England website. Click on the banner below to visit it.

Booking your wedding

If you wish to book a wedding you should come along to Vestry Hour:

VESTRY HOUR—FOR BOOKING CHRISTENINGS, WEDDINGS ETC

Saturday mornings, 10.00—11.00 am.  You will be assured of a warm welcome. Tea and Coffee will be available.

You will be able to meet with the Rector and ask any questions at this time. You will be asked to give details of name, age, address and occupation for entry into the Parish Register and you will be expected to pay a deposit (currently £60) to secure your booking. You may like to ring the Parish Office before coming to Vestry Hour to check what dates are available. To contact the Parish Office click here. If you reserve a date but do not pay the depoit at the same time we will only hold the booking for two weeks. If we do not hear again from you after two weeks we will assume that you no longer wish to proceed with your booking.

Please be aware that St Mary’s is a very popular church and that you will need to book well in advance in order to secure the date and time of your choice. Many couples like to book their reception venue first so that they are sure that all the timings work well together.

What happens after booking?

After you have booked your wedding and paid your deposit, you will receive a letter confirming the date and time of your wedding. Your details will have been entered into our files and the church will have been reserved for you. Following this you will not hear anything from us until at least the January before the date of your wedding sometimes later if your wedding is not until the second half of the year.

You will be invited to a marriage preparation day. We hold these twice and year. These are held on a Saturday and we provide a lunch as part of the day. Attendance at the wedding preparation day is not compulsorary but the feedback we have had from couples who have attended are that they have found it very helpful. The day focuses on your married life together but will also include information and help with regard to your wedding day.

All couples are sent a Wedding Information Booklet at the start of the year in which the wedding is due to take place. The booklet contains all the information you need in order to prepare for your wedding. Please read it carefully. You may have questions you wish to ask which you should make a note of.
The booklet also contains a letter inviting you to an interview with the Rector or Curate at their home when you can discuss your wedding in detail and talk to them about the day. It is a chance for you to get to know them better and for them to find out about you. It is not a test, so don’t worry!

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT THAT BOTH OF YOU ATTEND THIS INTERVIEW – PLEASE TRY TO FIT IN WITH THE TIME GIVEN. THE CLERGY ARE VERY BUSY, AND IT MAY NOT BE POSSIBLE TO FIND AN ALTERNATIVE.

If, in exceptional circumstances you cannot be there at the time offered, please let us know immediately and we will try to make other arrangements for you. Please bring some kind of id to the meeting as we need to see this for legal reasons.

On your Wedding Day

The church will be open well in advance of the time of your wedding. Often the groom’s party likes to arrive in good time to get familiar with the surroundings and take a few photographs.

A Verger is present for all wedding services and will be happy to answer any questions on the day or to help you get set up.

You may like to take note of the following:

Car Parking
The area immediately outside the gates and surrounding the tree will be coned off for use of the bridal cars. Please advise your guests that they should not park in this area.

The surrounding streets are narrow with many driveways and we do ask that your guests park with care and consideration for local residents.

You should also note that the Rector’s driveway is for the use of disabled drivers only. Please ensure that this area is not blocked by other cars.

Please be aware that we have had thefts from cars in our car park so we suggest that valuables such as cameras, wedding gifts etc. are not left within sight.

Confetti
The use of confetti is not permitted within the church grounds, but you are welcome to use it in the car park area and on the steps outside the church gates.

Marriage Certificates

When you get married you will be issued with a marriage certificate. It is important to keep this document in a safe place as you will probably need it from time to time throughout your life.

It is possible to obtain copies of the original certificate from us should you need to. There is a charge for this which you would need to send us along with a stamped-addressed envelope for the return of the certificates(s).  We would also need to know your full names and the exact date of your wedding in order to find the entry in our registers. To arrange for re-issued certificates, please  contact the Parish Office.

Rehearsal

A rehearsal will take place in Church a day or two before the wedding.  

The bride and groom will need to come along and are usually accompanied by their parents and any attendants (adult bridesmaids, best man).

Arrangements for this will be made at your interview with the Rector.

Banns Of Marriage

In order to fulfil legal requirements Banns of Marriage need to be published on three consecutive Sundays within three months of the wedding.   This will take place here at the 10.00am Service on the first three Sundays of the month preceding that of the wedding and you are warmly invited to attend if you so wish.  

Where one of the parties does not live in the parish of Old Swinford, Banns must be called in the parish where that party lives.   We have to have a certificate from that parish before we are allowed to conduct the wedding.   Responsibility for arranging this rests with the parties concerned and not with the Rector of Old Swinford.   In the case of neither party residing in the parish of Old Swinford, but one is a regular worshipper here and on the Electoral Roll, the Banns have to called in all three parishes concerned.   Again it is the responsibility of the parties concerned to arrange for this to be done.   If there has been a change of address since the wedding was booked please let us know immediately.

If you live in the Parish of St Mary’s and are holding your wedding at another church we will need to read your Banns here and will issue you with a certificate when this has been done. You can arrange to collect the certificate from the Parish Office (click here for contact details) or you can have it posted to you. The charge for reading of Banns and issue of certificate is currently £43.00.

Bells

It is normally possible to arrange for bellringers for your wedding although this may be more difficult in August or on a Friday due to holidays and work commitments.

Once you have booked your wedding if you wish to have the Bells rung before and after the ceremony, would you please  contact the Parish Office.

Costs

Wedding Fees 2020
May – SeptOct -April
Service with organ£650£735
Service with organ and choir£800£885
Service with organ and bells£780£865
Service with organ and choir and bells£930£1015

Photographs

Of course you will want to have a photographer present at your wedding.

The right to permit photography in Church is at all times the prerogative of the Rector and he will permit one official or nominated photographer to take photographs during the service from the balcony of the Church.   Photographs may also be taken by the official photographer in the Lady Chapel after the signing of the Registers.   Outside the church, photographs may be taken as you wish, although we ask you to remember that there may be other weddings after yours on that day.

Flowers

The ladies of the Flower Guild provide two flower arrangements for each weekend (except during Lent), one at the High Altar and the other in the Lady Chapel.  

 If you wish to have extra flowers in Church in the colours of your choice, done either by a florist or family friend, initial enquiries should be made through Mrs Sally Frost (01384 377146) in order to make the necessary arrangements.

You may want to have the pew end candles decorated. Sally Forst can help with this. If you wish to have the pew end candles lit for your service we make a charge of £20.

Very often when two or more weddings take place on the same day the brides contact each other to discuss sharing flowers in Church.   Please note that should you wish to use our pedestals for your arrangements these have to be left in Church after the wedding. 

You may wish to arrange for your florist to deliver flowers on the day before your wedding. To do this, please contact the Parish Office Your arrangements can be taken away after the service to your reception, or if you wish they may remain in Church (except during Lent).  

Suggested Readings

You will need to choose at least one reading for your wedding service. This is a list of suitable Bible passages of different lengths. Have a close look at them and decide which you feel is the most appropriate for you. If you wish to discuss them you can talk to the Rector at your wedding interview. You may like to choose a reading of your own. Again, the Rector can advise you.

Old Testament

Genesis 1.26-28

Then God said, ‘Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the wild animals of the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth.’

So God created humankind in his image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.

God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth.’

Song of Solomon 2.10-13; 8.6,7

My beloved speaks and says to me:
‘Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away;
for now the winter is past, the rain is over and gone.
The flowers appear on the earth;
the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtle dove is heard in our land.
The fig tree puts forth its figs,
and the vines are in blossom;
they give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away.’

Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon your arm;
for love is strong as death, passion fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire, a raging flame.
Many waters cannot quench love, 
neither can floods drown it.
If one offered for love all the wealth of one’s house,
it would be utterly scorned.Epistles

Romans 15.1-3,5-7,13

We who are strong ought to put up with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Each of us must please our neighbour for the good purpose of building up the neighbour. For Christ did not please himself; but, as it is written, ‘The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.’

May the God of steadfastness and encouragement grant you to live in harmony with one another, in accordance with Christ Jesus, so that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Welcome one another, therefore, just as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 8.31-35,37-39

What then are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not withhold his own Son, but gave him up for all of us, will he not with him also give us everything else? Who will bring any charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. Who is to condemn? It is Christ Jesus, who died, yes, who was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us. Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

1 Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

Ephesians 3.14-end

I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth takes its name. I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love. I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Now to him who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more than all we can ask or imagine, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations, for ever and ever. Amen.

Ephesians 4.1-6

I, the prisoner in the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to the one hope of your calling, one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is above all and through all and in all.

Philippians 4.4-9

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice. Let your gentleness be known to everyone. The Lord is near. Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. Keep on doing the things that you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and the God of peace will be with you.

Colossians 3.12-17

As God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; teach and admonish one another in all wisdom; and with gratitude in your hearts sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

1 John 4.7-12

Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.

Gospel readings

Matthew 5.1-10

When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain; and after he sat down, his disciples came to him. Then he began to speak, and taught them, saying:

‘Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, 
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.’

Mark 10.6-9,13-16

Jesus said, ‘From the beginning of creation, “God made them male and female.” “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.’

People were bringing little children to him in order that he might touch them; and the disciples spoke sternly to them. But when Jesus saw this, he was indignant and said to them, ‘Let the little children come to me; do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs. Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.’ And he took them up in his arms, laid his hands on them, and blessed them.

John 2.1-11

On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ And Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, ‘Fill the jars with water.’ And they filled them up to the brim. He said to them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it. When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.’ Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.

John 15.1-8

Jesus said to his disciples: ‘I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinegrower. He removes every branch in me that bears no fruit. Every branch that bears fruit he prunes to make it bear more fruit. You have already been cleansed by the word that I have spoken to you. Abide in me as I abide in you. Just as the branch cannot bear fruit by itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can you unless you abide in me. I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit, because apart from me you can do nothing. Whoever does not abide in me is thrown away like a branch and withers; such branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned. If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask for whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit and become my disciples.’

John 15.9-17

Jesus said to his disciples: ‘As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you; abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. I have said these things to you so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete.

This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. I do not call you servants any longer, because the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard from my Father. You did not choose me but I chose you. And I appointed you to go and bear fruit, fruit that will last, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask him in my name. I am giving you these commands so that you may love one another.’Psalms

Psalm 67

1 God be gracious to us and bless us 
and make his face to shine upon us, 
2 That your way may be known upon earth, 
your saving power among all nations. 
3 Let the peoples praise you, O God; 
let all the peoples praise you. 
4 O let the nations rejoice and be glad, 
for you will judge the peoples righteously
and govern the nations upon earth. 
5 Let the peoples praise you, O God; 
let all the peoples praise you. 
6 Then shall the earth bring forth her increase, 
and God, our own God, will bless us. 
7 God will bless us, 
and all the ends of the earth shall fear him.

Psalm 121

1 I lift up my eyes to the hills; 
from where is my help to come? 
2 My help comes from the Lord, 
the maker of heaven and earth. 
3 He will not suffer your foot to stumble; 
he who watches over you will not sleep. 
4 Behold, he who keeps watch over Israel 
shall neither slumber nor sleep. 
5 The Lord himself watches over you; 
the Lord is your shade at your right hand, 
6 So that the sun shall not strike you by day, 
neither the moon by night. 
7 The Lord shall keep you from all evil; 
it is he who shall keep your soul. 
8 The Lord shall keep watch over your going out
and your coming in, from this time forth for evermore.

Psalm 127

1 Unless the Lord builds the house, 
Those who build it labour in vain. 
2 Unless the Lord keeps the city, 
the guard keeps watch in vain. 
3 It is in vain that you hasten to rise up early
and go so late to rest, eating the bread of toil, 
for he gives his beloved sleep. 
4 Children are a heritage from the Lord 
and the fruit of the womb is his gift. 
5 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, 
so are the children of one’s youth. 
6 Happy are those who have their quiver full of them: 
they shall not be put to shame
when they dispute with their enemies in the gate. 

Psalm 128

1 Blessed are all those who fear the Lord, 
and walk in his ways. 
2 You shall eat the fruit of the toil of your hands; 
it shall go well with you, and happy shall you be. 
3 Your wife within your house shall be like a fruitful vine; your children round your table, like fresh olive branches. 
4 Thus shall the one be blest who fears the Lord. 
5 The Lord from out of Zion bless you, 
that you may see Jerusalem in prosperity
all the days of your life. 
6 May you see your children’s children, 
and may there be peace upon Israel.

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Wedding Music

Music is a very important part of your wedding service.

We have an excellent organist who will be happy to discuss your wedding music with you.

You may wish to book the choir – to do so please contact the Parish Office.

Please note that the choir is not usually available for mid week weddings or during school holidays.

We are able to play recorded music if that is what you choose. This can be either a CD or an Mp3 file on a USB stick. If you wish to play music in this way it is always best to bring a copy to your rehearsal so that we can test it out on our equipment.

Most people choose two pieces of music for the service – one to be played when the bride enters and one as the bride and groom leave the church. You may also like to select something for the organist to play while you sign the Registers. 

Our organist will contact you to discuss your choice of music. He is also always happy to meet with couples to discuss music choices following the 10.00am service in church on a Sunday. To make contact with the organist click here.

Here is a list of suitable hymns. You will normally be asked to choose two hymns, although some people like to have three.

RECOMMENDED LIST OF WEDDING HYMNS

FIRST HYMN                                                             

100 All people that on earth do dwell       

101 O worship the King (omit 5)             

163 Angel voices ever singing                           

283 Blessed city, heavenly Salem                  

345 Christ is the King                                      

147 Crown him with many crowns                     

 78 From all that dwell below the skies        

 172 Glorious things of thee are spoken            

365 God is love                                                

202 Let all the world in every corner sing         

203 Praise ye the Lord                                      

192 Praise my soul the King of heaven              

207 Praise to the Lord the almighty                    

46 When the morning guilds the skies

SECOND HYMN    

238 Blest are the pure in heart

161 Christ is our cornerstone

113 Father hear the prayer we offer

200 Fill thou my life O Lord my God

374 Help us to help each other Lord

224 Lead us heavenly Father lead us

394 Lord of all hopefulness

106 Lord of beauty thine the splendour

131 Love divine

205 Now thank we all our God

287 Lord of heaven and earth and sea

280 Perfect love

110 The God of love my shepherd is

126 The King of love my shepherd is

426 The Lord’s my shepherd
209 Through all the changing scenes of life                         

If you would like to discuss these or others, please contact our Director of Music Mr James Bradley using the details on the contacts page.

You are welcome to borrow a hymn book to look through. To arrange this, please  contact the Parish Office.

FAQs

 What do Christians believe about marriage?
Christians believe that marriage is a gift from God. In the marriage ceremony, a couple make a public declaration of lifelong commitment to love each other, come what may.

We’ve decided to get married abroad but we would like a church blessing. Is that possible?
Yes. There is a service of prayer and dedication after a civil ceremony and this can be adapted. There are no legal requirements for this.

I’m Church of England and he’s a Catholic. Does that matter?
People of all denominations have a right to be married in their parish church (provided they have not been married before). So it doesn’t matter from the Church of England’s perspective.

Do we need marriage preparation?
During the months before your wedding we will invite you come to an intewrview with the Rector to discuss the arrangements and ask any questions you may have. It is very important that you both attend at the set time. If you cannot come on that day we would ask that you let us know as soon as possible. Please come prepared to talk about the day and to answer any questions the Rector may have for you.

What are the legal requirements?
Unless you are getting married by Common or Special licence the normal way is to have your banns read out in church on the first three Sundays of the month before your wedding. You would be most welcome to join the church community for the 10.00 am service and to hear them read. The banns must be read in the parish where each of you lives as well as the church in which you are to be married if that is in another parish. 
If you are under the age of eighteen, you must have your parents’ consent to marry.
There are circumstances where some form of licence, such as a common licence or special licence, is more appropriate. The Rector will discuss with you what you need to do.

How much will it cost?
The cost of a wedding varies enormously depending on whether you have extras added such as choir, bells or video. Scroll up the page to view costing for 2020.


Can we be involved in planning the service?
Yes.  You can choose to have a modern language service or one in more traditional language including the Book of Common Prayer service.

Should we have one or two rings?
A wedding ring is a symbol of unending love and faithfulness, and of the commitment you are making to each other. It is entirely up to you whether you have one ring or two.

Can I marry in any other colour than white?
Yes

Is there a rehearsal?
Yes. The time for this will be arranged at your interview. It is usually during the week before your wedding. You will both need to come to this and you may bring your parents, best man and bridesmaids if you wish.

May we marry on a Sunday?
Although you have the right to get married in a church,we do not normally do Sunday weddings as we have other services on that day. If it is possible to be married on a Sunday the time of your ceremony will be restricted. We would not be able to hold a ceremony before 1.00pm and on the first and third Sundays of every month we hold baptism services at 3.00pm.

What happens if one of us lives abroad?
Marriage by Common Licence can take place on the basis of one of the couple living in the parish or regularly attending the church without any action being necessary where the other party lives.  The Rector will know how to apply for a Common Licence. However, because we hold a wedding interview, we need to be able to see you both.

What happens if one of us is a foreign national?
If one is a national of a country outside Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, the EU or USA  the Church has a responsibility to conduct marriages which will be recognised in the country the bride or groom comes from.  This is done for the couple’s benefit not just for bureaucracy.  Therefore, the Faculty Office strongly recommends that these marriages should be done by Common Licence rather than banns and you may need to obtain from the relevant embassy or consulate a letter saying the marriage will be recognised. 

Can we renew our vows?
Yes. We offer a service of Thanksgiving of Marriage, which may be used for a number of different occasions including:

Renewing marriage vows
To celebrate a special anniversary
After a period of separation or difficulty in marriage.

You may also wish to combine the renewing of vows with a service of Holy Communion. There are no legal requirements or set fees.

We have children. Can they be involved in the service?
Your children will be made very welcome here and we are happy for them to be part of your big day.

My partner is divorced. Can we still marry in church?
The Church of England teaches that marriage is for life, but it also recognises that some marriages sadly do fail. We understand that, and in exceptional circumstances, a divorced person may marry again in church. 
At St Mary’s the Rector is willing to discuss the possibility of such a marriage. We would need to talk to you openly about your the past, your hopes for the future and your understanding of marriage. 
You will also need to supply your original Decree Absolute. It is important to realise that no definite arrangements for any kind of service can be made until you have spoken to the Rector. Please click here for his contact details. 

We don’t live in the Parish. Can we still marry at St Mary’s?
The law as it stands states that you may marry outside of your own Parish. To do this you must have been baptised and must attend worship on a regular basis for a period of six months prior to application. The PCC (Parochial Church Council) will then consider your application to be a member of the electoral role. Recently. the Church of England has introduced a new law called the Marriage Measure which aims to provide a wider choice to engaged couples. If you wish to know the details of the Marriage Measure click here.

Click here to find out which parish you currently live in.